What Does A Stay At Home Mum Do All Day?

I’ve had one of those days where I don’t know how I do it all. How do I cope? How do I get all the jobs done? Why does my house still look like a sh*t tip after cleaning all day? I’ve got 3 children. 1 is at school all day, 1 is at nursery for half of the day and 1 stays at home with me. I’m also pregnant with my 4th. What does a stay at home mum do all day?!

I decided to be a stay at home mum because luckily we are in a position where we can afford to keep me at home running the house. In fact it saves us lots of money and as we live as self sufficiently as possible, there are lots of jobs that I do at home which also saves us money.

Today I haven’t sat down yet. It’s nearly 6pm and my husband is due home any minute. The house still looks a mess but I am forcing myself 20mins to sit down and rest. My ankles are starting to swell and a bad mood is lingering. I’m very lucky to have a husband who never doubts what I’ve done all day, and often tells me off for doing too much. He likes it when I tell him that I haven’t done much in the day, because it gives him some peace of mind.

I juggle a 3 bed home, a minimal ‘job’ blogging and writing, 3 kids, 14 pets and 11 school runs a week (22 times walking up the same f**king path.) I get asked to go out for coffee, shopping trips and nights out. I don’t have time of day nor energy left so I politely deny the opportunities. I think my friends think I’m a recluse/a bitch/ or that I’d rather watch Jeremy Kyle.  It’s my own fault I suppose for having sex at least 4 times. Soon I will have 4 kids. 4 FREAKIN’ KIDS…. HOW WILL I COPE THEN?!

Oh, I also have gallstones. They hurtin’ like a bitch atm. FML.

As a Stay At Home Mum, today I did…

Here is a list of todays jobs. I thought I’d keep a little diary for the day. I’m still not done yet, and have a few jobs to add to the list but here’s what my daily routine often looks like. Please note, I don’t normally do this many wash loads per day… I was taking advantage of the sunshine/wind combo and stripped bedding, washed cushions, nappies, duvets and linens.

  • Wash loads- x7 (likely to be 8)
  • Nursery / School run
  • Gather dirty laundry
  • Clean bathroom
  • Empty rubbish upstairs
  • Hang washing on line / inside- x7
  • Tidy girls toys upstairs
  • Put washing up away
  • Fold clean laundry from yesterday
  • Put away clean laundry- x5 loads
  • Fix broken wardrobe draw (that I broke while putting clothes away- tw*t)
  • Sh*tty nappy changes- x3
  • Nursery pick up
  • Break up fights- countless… constant…
  • Cook / burn lunch
  • Get clean washing in- x 5
  • Stain remove clothes that didn’t clean and wash, hang, dry, fold again
  • Feed chickens / dogs
  • Water the vegetables
  • Prick weeds out of the veg beds as quickly as possible
  • Collect eggs from our chickens
  • Pick up dog poos
  • Washing up- x2 (extra points for cleaning burnt pan)
  • Disinfect kitchen
  • Catch a spider (and have a heart attack)
  • Pick up kids shoes and “put them where they’re meant to live!”
  • Wash front of cupboards (the sun shone through the windows and made me realise that they were minging)
  • Sweep kitchen
  • Pick up toys from living room
  • Dust (One reason to hate sunshine… you see all of the bast*rd dust everywhere)
  • Clean the grubby washing machine front
  • Booked Dr’s/ midwife appointments
  • Write 3 blog posts

And all of these tasks were completed in between feeding kids, arguing what they can and can’t have as snacks, listening to constant crying / arguing and carrying the toddler. Oh, and attempting to play / organise a disco to keep them entertained.

TO DO LIST-

  • Hoover
  • Cook dinner
  • Mop
  • Get school uniforms / bags ready for tomorrow
  • Sit on my arse for 10 minutes before going to bed at 8pm and doing most of it again tomorrow.

Anyone else feel like they do too much? I must remember to take it more steady and stress less. But in all honesty, I do the bare minimum to keep my house safe / kind of clean. I suppose, with a large family comes lots of jobs. I’m also relatively house proud. I can’t stand a mess. I’m happy for a house to be lived in, but living in mess embarrasses me.

Some days I spend all day writing and do next to nothing in the house. Other days I crack on, knuckle down and only check FB when I’m on the loo!

THE BIG SPRING CLEAN- declutter the bathroom

As the days are getting brighter and the sun is taking longer to set at night, many of  us are feeling the early signs of spring. I’m excited! We have seeds starting to grow, and cupboards that need sorting. We also want the house completely decorated by the time summer ends. I don’t want much, do I?!

Since moving into our new home last July, we have spent so long getting the downstairs cleaned and tidied, the garden ready for growing food and various parts of inside and outside rebuilt or fixed. Every weekend (and weekday evenings) has been spent doing hose improvement jobs. Cupboards and their contents were neglected. I am welcoming our first big Spring Clean with open arms- and a few charity shop bags to boot.

The Bathroom

The first and easiest room to tackle was our bathroom. The airing cupboard specifically. It was a dumping ground for bedding and excess toiletries. It also hadn’t had a proper clean since we moved in and harboured more cobwebs and dust than Mrs Haversham’s wedding dress.

A few weeks after we moved in I decided to use some old plastic storage tubs to store the bedding, but it soon became just another useless and unorganised pile. I started my mammoth task by working my way through the boxes and putting each item into groups. Single duvet covers, pillow cases, fitted sheets and double bedding.

Be realistic about what you need

You DO NOT need 5 duvet sets. Chances are you have your favourites and you always grab those first on linen day. I have 3 sets for each bed. Wash one, wear one, and a spare one. The spare is for sickness days etc.

The kids seem to have so many odd sets, I decided to stick to the 3-sets rule, and make sure I only kept matching sets. Odd pillow cases were goners. As were any stained, ripped or faded bedding. What’s the point in hanging on to something if it isn’t getting used?

The old bedding is being cut up into yarn for making a rag rug… when I find the time!

Storage Boxes are AMAZING

You know those stacking boxes that go into the plastic shelving? Sometimes a box breaks, or the little plastic shelving breaks and you’re left with just the boxes. Don’t chuck them. Put them in the airing cupboard and labelled for your bedding. This is great if, like us, you don’t have much shelving in your airing cupboard. Just stack the boxes, and you know exactly where what items are as they will be folded neatly and labelled.

Dirty light cord

A bacteria breeding ground found in every home, that every member of the family uses. Even after you’ve washed your hands after using the loo, you still touch that cord before leaving the bathroom- which was made dirty as you turned the light on when entering the bathroom. Without even noticing it, it turns black with filth. One day, all of a sudden you will spot it and it will gross you out.

You can buy new cords for around £2 and they are very easy to change. If you don’t want to spend any cash another easy fix is to soak cotton wool pads in bleach and wrap around the cord. Leave for a few hours, remove and rinse. Voila, a white and germ free cord once again!

Kids Bath Toys

I swear they breed. You start off with one cute rubber duck when baby arrives and by age 3 they have 30 different sea creatures, nets, buckets, funnels, pirate ships, empty bottles and…. a f*ck ton of mould. Yup, you heard me, mould. Black, dangerous mould. Your kids have been squirting that into their water… and if they’re nasty kids like mine, then into their MOUTHS.

Grab an old squirty toy, cut it in half. Look at its vile contents, Gross. Bin them, bin them NOW!

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Bathroom junk

Nail varnishes, moisturisers, bottles of whatever… all collect dust, chances are that you wont use them before they go off and most of them are packed full of nasty chemicals. I stopped using deodorant years ago. I feel so much better for it. You can read about my deodorant detox here. I also ditched the tampons and disposable sanitary items and made a switch to reusable versions. It gets the clutter out of the bathroom and the bleaches out of your vagina.

Chuck items that you suspect you may never use. If they are brand new and they haven’t been opened donate them to a local food bank, who will pass them on to those who need help. Food banks aren’t just for food! Bin the old nail varnishes that are dried and useless. Throw the toiletries that have been open for longer than recommended. To check this, take a look on the back of a product, and see this symbol….

…. that shows recommended months to keep this open for. Any longer and you pose a risk to your health.

 

Do you have any bathroom cleaning tips? Have you ever discovered something nasty hiding in your bathroom? Let me know in the comments!