I have some amazing friends who foster children, but those children are looking for permanent homes- they need adoptive parents. Jay and Myself have discussed fostering once our girls have grown up, and we can’t wait to step up to the job. Many people are looking into adoption, but it can a confusing and tough task, but the rewards are just incredible! Locally, we have a lot of teams searching for prospective parents and adverts can be found in our local papers regularly. Preparing to adopt a child can be an exciting time. But it can also be frustrating and time-consuming. I’ve put together these tips for anybody looking to adopt to give them some pointers on what to expect.
Play The Long Game
The adoption process is a long one – and could end up with rejection. Although there is plenty for you to do during this period, it is important to keep up other activities in your life. Don’t let it become all-consuming. No matter how sure you are that you will be accepted at the assessment stage, there may be a quirk in the system that could disappoint you.
Get Legal Help
To give yourself the best chance of success in the adoption process, look into getting legal help. Family and child care lawyers Wilson Browne Solicitors recommend that you choose a firm that are members of the Law Society Children Panel. Proper legal backing will help you find your way through the complicated legal proceedings that will follow.
Whatever age the children you are planning to adopt are, you will need to prove yourself financially capable of looking after them. And it will be expensive. Babies and younger kids will need clothing, furniture, buggies and plenty of nappies. Even if you are adopting an older child, you will need to think about paying for extra-curricular activities, university fees, and much, much more.
Get A Support System
Family and friends can be a godsend when you are bringing up a family, so make sure you have yours on board. Although you will want to do everything yourself, make sure to accept help whenever it is offered. Whether you have a child, adopt or even foster, the whole experience can be overwhelming. Take advantage of people’s kindness when offered.
Tips For The Big Day
While it might be tempting to throw a big party when you bring an adopted child home for the first time, it can be overwhelming for them. However young or old they are, they might find it difficult to settle in. Give them time. Maybe sit and watch a fun movie together or even play some easily, light-hearted games to help get to know each other.
Give Things Time
There could be some tough weeks – or even months – ahead, so you will need to prepare mentally for some tough days. It can take time for bonds to form between everyone, no matter how easy you think it will be. Always keep this in mind for the first year or so.
Take Care Of Yourself
Functioning parents are more important to a child than anything else, so make sure you are looking after yourself. Eat well, find some time to exercise, and keep your mind active to escape the fog of early parenthood. Nobody said this was going to be easy. If you are happy then your new beautiful family will be happy.
Hopefully, this article will have given you some ideas about how things are going to go. No situation is the same, but as long as you are aware of the difficulties involved in adoption, you will be better placed to meet them head on. So, go for it!
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